The aim is to be emotionally secure in oneself.
I have recently completed by 41st birthday and working on my 42nd year. The time period that Rahu will mature. I have Ketu in the 3rd in Capricorn and Rahu in Cancer in the 9th. I recently lost 2 good friends of 20 years as I requested that they spend quality time with me than to get distracted by their phone and to be respectful of me and my family member. I think I could have said it in a better manner or not say it at all and maybe not have lost their friendnship as the 3rd is a house of communications and peers. I am finally learning that these friends cannot make me feel good with their undivided attentions or being respectful to me. Eventually, it lies on me to make myself feel good.
I am learning how to swim at 42 for the 1st time. Having Rahu in Cancer, I am trying to overcome my fear of the water and I found it interesting that I am finally ready to face my fears at 42.
@stefanie3004 I lost two close friends in a similar manner a few years ago. I don't have the nodes in my 3rd house, but I do have Mercury conjunct Pluto there with Mercury being my Lagna lord, and a Parivartana 1/3 yoga. This happened during my Mercury maturation period. We went from making the effort to get together weekly, to not speaking at all except for formalities (birthday texts). In a similar vein to you, I confronted one of my friends for constantly being hours late for our plans without warning or explanation. To my surprise, when I lost his friendship my other good friend stopped communicating with me as well, even though she often griped to me about our other friend's selfishness.
It can be difficult to navigate when you lose a stable source of camaraderie or community. I hope you make great progress in facing your fears and accomplish your goal of learning to swim 🙂
@kam Thank you ???? Sorry to hear that you had to go through a similar experience. I thought about it that if a simple request to put away your mobile during dinner and to be respectful of each other's time could end a friendship, it means that there was no mutual respect in the friendship in the first place. So maybe, it was good that it ended. We will find new friends who will be more supportive of us and be glad to be punctual because they value spending quality time with us.
So, don't worry about it. It is a blessing in disguise. Go out and do activities in groups, meet new people, volunteer, etc. There are many more people who will open your mind and soul.
Mercury does rule friends. So, with mercury maturing, maybe you will be better able to select friends that are good for you.
With my Rahu in the 9th, by focusing on the spiritual path, I found myself losing my own friends but gaining the acquaintance of my Guru's peers, by listening to their talks. As Ernst mentioned, as I move towards the Rahu house and focus on my spiritual path, the students of the Guru will be my friends.
So in the "Healing Rahu and Ketu" video, Ernst would mention about "did you ever feel so bad about the ketu house that you feel suicidal or see no point in living?"
Yes. I felt that recently when I lost my 2 friends. That inspired me to take up swimming and to take responsibility for my own emotions and not be reliant on others to make me feel good about myself.
It was taught you would attract people into your life during each planetary dasha where their planets fall in the same sign as your Rahu. If your are completing your sun dasha, does this means that you can finally let the sun person go and severe all ties with them and move on to your moon dasha?
@ernst Yes! Letting go of the Sun person is a painful psychological and emotional battle. I can neither stay nor leave. Either way is equally painful for me.