Ernst, you mentioned that going from Mitra to Aryama is regressing. I understand this on a spiritual level. So, how is one supposed to find a spouse then? My thoughts are that developing spiritually is beyond marriage but some people’s charts are very marriage oriented. And obviously spiritual leaders can be married.
also, we may be helpless at some point. Not just temporarily but until death (hospice for example). Is it regressing to care for a spouse in this state? I think the answer is obviously no, but I don’t really understand the logic as to why yet.
What I mean by that is that we are evolving the room, the embrace of our love. So at Dhaata its the love of the protector to protect what is helpless, at Mitra is the love of friendship, which includes more people, at Varuna, love is all encompassing. So a person who has that would be going backwards where they to focus on the love of Dhaata, but that does not mean they cannot love like dhaata, they do, and they will, but its not all of them, its part of the greater love.
so arayama can be a supporter and protector dhaata, because it has the love of Dhaata in it, and does it very often, when needed, but it would be a limitation to only have those kinds of relationships.