I’m having a tough time with Mitra Aditya. I understand Law of Potential but I do judge. Or I feel myself judging, due to shame. My mother became a drug addict and when I was young I swore to myself that I would never do that to my children. Of course I have learned that the more I resist and fear something, such as abandonment, the more I guarantee it to happen. Now I also just started learning yoga judgment and see that my own baby has some karma for unhappiness and not having happiness of his mother. I feel awful about it, like a total failure, as if I already have abandoned him although I’ve fought to be as present and as nurturing as possible. And I do mean I have had to fight for it because everyone around me doesn’t seem to know how to raise a healthy baby. So, he has a lot going on in Mitra - Sun, Venus, and Jupiter, and it is his 6th house. I’m making it my goal to have acceptance for all walks of life, all potentials. I’m guessing that the key is to not only understand how potentials work and how God walks every path, but to also release the emotions that are brought up that caused the shame and judgement. At the same time, I think my judgement is what has made my transformations positive (my lagna lord is beat up in the 8th opposite an exalted Jupiter). How do I distinguish the difference between using a good Jupiter to make good judgment calls and judging out of shame? I realize this sounds like a desperate attempt to not have my baby feel unhappy when in reality it’s what I should accept.. I have a lot of emotions around it.