Hi everyone,
Nonviolent communication(NVC) developed by Marshall Rosenberg is a way communicating that I think can be useful in healing some of the Lajjitaadi Avasthas.
For eg: It can help Sun agitating Mercury or combust Mercury in asking questions and making requests in a coherent way. It can help Sa-Mo conjunction. shamed/starved Moon folks to get in touch with their feelings and their real needs and help develop self-empathy. It can help Moon starving Venus folks to understand their needs, needs of their partner and needs of the relationship.
Also, other than the conditioning, trauma and defense mechanisms, I think a lot of our PAC issues might be due to how the communication between our Parent, adult and child mind is. Learning and practicing NVC I think has definitely helped me better my interpersonal communication and also my self talk.
If any of you has come across NVC before, would like to hear your thoughts and experience about it. And if you think there are other Lajjitaadi avasthas it can help with.
For a short intro of NVC, here is a small explainer video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=INdKgBPEI-8
If anyone is exploring this further, I would recommend the book 'Living Non Violent Communication'.