I have actually completed the whole compatibility course a few years back but decided to refresh my memory. I didn’t listen to Pet Allen’s audio files previously but now when I listen to it, I am not sure that what a man or woman wants in a relationship or a partner can be so clearly defined. Sometimes I want it be cherished and sometimes, I want to be respected. I don’t want to be respected for what I can do or provide In the relationship and not be cherished. I want those flowers as well. So it is complicated.
@stefanie3004 It´s highly contextual. But especially in the bonding part of a relationship it´s good if each gender gets what it needs the most. She wants to be cherished for what she is, he wants to get respect for what he does. But then, like in dancing: you take turns, the energy moves around. Yes, it´s just like dancing. But again, in the beginning, the first steps, we play the roles, until we find comfort. (I don´t know if Ernst says that though. Probably my own thoughts, take it for what it´s worth.)
I thought about it. I want to be cherished more than respected! ????
I noticed that my simple questions on a woman not doing anything to feel good and feeling cherished has triggered a lot of emotions. I have never been in a relationships so I cannot understand where the men and women are coming from. Society always sees a man and a woman should be married or partnered. A single man or woman is considered something is wrong with them. But not anymore. I think taking time off to be single and be by yourself can make you understand yourself better and decide whether you want a partner because you truly want a partner or because society thinks there is something wrong with you being single.
I see family and friends being in relationships and I can say they have compromised. Do I want to experience what they are going through? No, not really.
Even though it gets lonely sometimes, I still value my freedom and single life.
@stefanie3004 I'm just curious, do you have your Venus in Libra by any chance?
@stefanie3004 I see. I wanted to ask because your sentiments in the above post sound a lot like a self-abiding Venus, which is what I have in my chart. But since your Venus is Proud, this may explain that.
@stefanie3004 Its very true, relationships are not for everyone. This idea that everyone needs to be in a relationship is not true of everyone. Also, wounds make many people think they want a relationship when in fact, they are not even relationship centered and just need to heal their wounds and be complete within themselves. so its great you are finding your way and not letting cultural ideas get in the way.
I have completed the Stri Drigha part and I think a man’s moon should always be before a woman’s moon. I would personally tell a woman to not be with a man whose moon sign is after hers, regardless of what she says about being happy being an initiator in a relationship. That is all bullshit. A woman does not and should not be an initiator in a relationship. It gets exhausting and frustrating in the end and leaves the woman unhappy. So if you find your moon sign is before your man’s, get out of there! ????????????
@stefanie3004 I think you are exaggerating Stefanie. It´s a negative thing, but I don´t think it breaks a relationship by itself. If other factors are good it might still work.
Mattias
@stefanie3004 With that said, I do agree that it´s important that the man has the initiative. Again: especially when we are in productive age. In my previous relationship I had the not so nice experience of being fooled to become a father. Sure, I knew about birth protection, but when she says it´s her safest day and it turns out to be in the middle of her ovulation... The result was a wonderful son that I love profoundly, so I feel bad having ever complained, but anyway....... She chose herself as my woman you can say and never gave herself the chance to be chosen, and our relationship suffered from that a lot. Both of us (our egos...) suffering; I felt forced into the relationship and she didn´t feel appreciated as a woman. And it was always there like a shadow, in some way we never got out of it. Today we are separated and the best friends on earth, but I think it stills haunts her that she never was chosen as it should be, the pregnancy forced us to be together (and then of course we found many more reasons, otherwise it wouldn´t have worked as long as it did).
@meyes I recall Ernst mention in the audio that when he sees a woman’s moon / nakshatra is before a man’s, he knows right away or doesn’t feel good about it.