Hi All,
I'm looking for which courses I should listen to/watch on Astrology Videos to learn more about compatibility blemishes in relationships. Specifically, my husband and I are both Bharani Nakshatra and have Raaju in the Neck if you use Krittika on the Galactic Center, which hurts the wife (myself, lol). To boot, we also have Windy Nadi which is cancelled out by #3 (or Fiery if you're using Ashwini), basically, a dosha excess. We have overall 28 compatibility in Kala but I'm feeling more dissatisfied with the relationship than he does. He's a 4 of Clubs and I'm a 3 of Clubs. My birth card is his Pluto card. He's going through Saturn return and Saturn is on his DSC and I have Jupiter in Pisces to boot so we're both getting his by Saturn in our relationship, not to mention the overall Aries/Libra ecliptic axis being activated right now, which is my natal Rahu/Ketu access. It feels like exam time for relationships. I got a cards compatibility reading for us recently and it just made me cry and we got in a fight that only resulted in saying we basically needed marriage counseling. The thing is, I really don't feel like I can get out of my marriage. I put all my energy into maintaining the image of normalcy with it and I feel that's all I have to hold on to. I don't want to hurt my husband. I can't see beyond the marriage even though I feel constantly chaffed and irritated by the situation. I wonder if it's me, not him or just poor compatibility and no one is really to blame. I even began looking towards men at work to fulfill me emotionally, which I know is dangerous territory. I want to learn more about compatibility so I can see if there's a silver lining in this. The reading I received said I could make anything work with enough effort and sacrifice but the question in the end is if it's really worth it.
Thank you <3
Hi! I believe that shifting the focus internally can be very healing here.
It helped me a lot to listen to Ernst´s You tube videos "Having more love in my life" in the net and "Healing Rahu & Ketu" within this platform. To love/ listen and appreciate yourself is key for everything else. Sounds so worn out but...
I put all my energy into maintaining the image of normalcy with it
From your description of your relationship this is the single most dangerous thing. Consider throwing normalcy out the window and make the focus appreciating who your partner is, who you are and allowing that appreciation to create the partnership which is supporting both of you. Saturn return will put you through identity shifts and crisis, the partnership needs to be flexible and allow space for the individuals to explore and transform and if your able to do this you will really value the relationship all the more.
Rajju in the neck is tough, I have Rajju with my partner and it invariably comes up quite often to reduce the enjoyment we have. Typically I have seen that when Rajju is at work it's really no ones fault but the time together/plans gets ruined and we are offered the opportunity to blame the other and sulk in unfulfilled expectations. One strategy we have is using spontaneity rather than trying to plan things, like there will be a concert we want to go to and instead of making a grand plan we'll just go the night of and somehow tickets appear and then we have the greatest time.
I really benefited from the Compatibility course, definitely take it because these relationship issues follow us from one to the other and show up in non-intimate relationships as well.