Experiences and significance of 2nd (37) nodal return
I am wondering what the significance and or experience everyone has had with with their 2nd nodal return at 37ish years old.
Best way I can say how it's affecting me, no offense, is like God slapping you in the face saying, "Time to grow the f**k up." Good luck to you!
All your psychological complexes from childhood come rearing up in the realm of relationships, career, finances, even material possessions and you have to make the responsible choice in all these categories. It's kind of like jumping a series of hurdles in a relay race. For my part, I'm committed to taking an SSRI and keeping my head down for the next two years. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Do NOT get a divorce. There ya go.
2nd nodal return coincides with Saturn maturation. This is when we start to learn to use our Saturn. It also brings reality into focus. From now on, it’s heading towards Rahu maturation in a few years, and slowly things start presenting themselves from our unconscious side.
When I look back at my nodal returns, I can distinguish between the quarters, like one would between the quarter phases of the moon. The start was like the New Moon, when things started becoming clear. The reverse nodal return is like the Full Moon, when things that need to become conscious have reached their peak. After that comes the phase when we start integrating and adjusting to what has become conscious. If you remember the 18 years following your first nodal return, you might get an idea.
If there is any advice I would give to myself if I were to go through it again, it would be that things line up to make one’s life easy. How attached we are to the Ketu house creates our suffering. I struggled to let go of the Ketu house. Much advice and information and opportunities came my way to let go of it, but I couldn’t. I wasn’t into astrology at that time. Now, with hindsight, I see the value of it all and follow it as much as I am capable of in any given moment.
Some of my thoughts on Ketu in the 9th (Venus) and Rahu in the 3rd (Mars). 9th house is the house of belief so the thinking is if they believe in something (religions, parents, a system etc...) they will get through life. But one day they are going to question that 9th house, that faith, that belief system. One can believe in something in their heart which is the 9th house, but they have to practice it too which is the 3rd house, the house of efforts and skills. They have to test it, practice it, prove it to see what they believe is true. That is Rahu in the 3rd. Ketu in the 9th is saying as long as they believe in something, everything will work out. But one day it does not work out. So they have to go to the 3rd Rahu house by testing, practicing what they believe to see if it really works. Just blindly believing in something does not necessarily make it true.
Ketu in Venus sign - as long as they are fulfill they are ok. They want people to please them, to make them happy, to fulfill them then they will get through this world. But people may like them not in a healthy way or one day they just realize they are unhappy. Rahu in Mars sign, it afflicts the person's energy. When they are in a difficult relationship, they think by going to someone else who will please them, they will be ok because Venus is the sign of fulfillment. But they have to fight for it, work at it which is Rahu in Mars sign. Mars is hard work, effort, self-restraint and persistent. The ideal of fighting for something is foreign to them. They need to know what they will be fulfill with and work hard for it, fight for it. Things rarely come easy...
Ketu house is the house that we are comfortable with and we tend to stay there as long as possible. But the Rahu house is where we have to explore, to test to see if what we believe makes sense. Rahu house is scary and for some of us it takes much longer to go there than others. I look at this simply as life experience. Once you experience life, grow and mature by going to the Rahu house then you come back to your Ketu house, you will be much more balance in a healthy way because of your Rahu experience...
I have a friend with this Axis. She is unhappy with her boyfriend because she is feeling unfulfilled. She thinks by finding another boyfriend, she will be happier. I told her what is it that she wants from the relationship? Her boyfriend alone is not going to make her happy. She has to figure out what makes her happy and fight for it, work for it. Good things come into our life through Venus. We can make those things better by putting efforts, energy into them, Mars. Otherwise, everything becomes meaningless in the long run.